I say this all the time, but my very favorite part of my job is answering your emails. I love hearing from you, talking with you about your life, about boys, and jobs, and God, and what it means to be a woman who’s confident in her own skin. I love it because it helps me to know what you’re going through, which is often what I’m going through too, and I just love going through it together.
One of the central themes of your emails for the last few years, and a theme that came up like a tidal wave in my life this last year is friendship. I’ve always loved talking about friendships, because my friendships have transformed me and my life completely. But it came up in a new way this last year.
It came up like that because all of a sudden I found myself friend-less.
That’s a bit extreme maybe, I had friends. But almost a year ago I moved to a whole new state where I didn’t know anyone. For the first time in my whole life I had to form community from scratch, and it was tough!
When we decided to move to Nashville I had no idea how lonely I would feel, how disconnected, and isolated and hopeless. I always knew friendship was a vital part of my life, but I didn’t realize how vital until my closest friends were hundreds and thousands of miles away.
And going through that (wrestling, and crying through that – to be more accurate), got me thinking. I started talking with people about friendships and transition, and started writing about it too. And the more I talked and the more I wrote, the more I realized that I wasn’t alone in what I was going through.
I began to realize that this is something so many of us are wrestling through.
We want close friendships, we need close friendships. But for most of us, we’ve never had them and feel like we missed the boat, or we moved away and are starting from scratch, or we have friends but they don’t seem to be the life-giving connections we hoped they’d be. To top it all off, nobody seems quite sure how to fix this.
So I spent the last year trying to change that.
I’ve jumped in head first to figuring out how to find and create a community when you don’t know a soul. I’ve spent the last year compiling everything I’ve ever learned about friendships. I’ve dug back through my history with my amazing best friends and figured out what it is that helped us get to those soul-filling places with each other. I’ve tried those things out with new friends — seeing if there are common threads or conversations that help us get to those deep places more intentionally. I’m so proud of what that research and experience has turned into.
So today I’m thrilled to the moon to get to share with you something I’ve spent my whole life learning about, but this last year writing about. They’re two resources for creating the friendships we’ve always wanted.
The first is an eBook. It’s called “Dear Best Friends, Where Are You” and it’s the 10 practical steps I took to creating a community from scratch here in Nashville. It’s a great tool if you just moved to a new town, or a new school, or are unsure of where to find friends in the first place.
The second (and this is the best part!) is a Small Group Guide designed to help us form the deep, soul-filling friendships we all so desperately need. It’s a 6-week journey where I’ll lead you and a group through the process of truly getting to know each other. I believe (because I’ve seen it!) that if you go through this workbook with a group of girls, and if you’re honest and courageous with each other, you’ll come out on the other side knowing in the depths of your soul that you’re not alone in the world. Is there anything better than that!?
So without further ado, and with all the pomp and circumstance I can fit in an email, here they are!
A few practical notes:
1. Because we’re printing the workbooks in one large batch, they will only be for sale for 1 week, and then won’t be available again until Christmas. They will be gone from the shop at the end of the day on May 27th. So if you think this is something you might want to do, even if you don’t have a group together yet, go ahead and grab your copies while they’re available. You can figure out the details later. 🙂
2. Because I know many of you are like me and have just moved to a new place or are starting fresh in your friendships, I am giving free copies of the eBook away to the first 100 groups to sign up. (Many of those spots have already been snagged, so don’t wait too long!)
3. If you don’t have any idea how to lead a small group, you’re not alone. I created a leader’s guide that will be emailed to you for free with your purchase of the workbooks. I’ll walk you through how to pick your group, where to meet, and the logistics of the thing. 🙂
Y’all, this is so my heart. My friendships are the greatest gift I’ve ever been given. The thoughts, stories, and conversation guides I’ve included in these two books are how my friends and I got there, and how I’m growing closer to a whole new group of friends here in Nashville. I truly believe that if you gather a group of women and go through this guide together, you will come out 1000% closer to having the kinds of friendships you’ve always wanted.
So here we go! You can pick up your copies right here, and don’t wait too long! They’ll only be for sale until May 27th, and those 100 free eBook spots will go fast!
Wishing you friendship and connection beyond your wildest dreams!
All my love,
P.S. If you have any questions, feel free to email me! Stephanie@StephanieMayWilson.com.