Hi sweet friends!
I just wanted to pop in and remind you that today is the VERY LAST DAY to order your copies of my new small group guide. After today it won’t be available again until right before Christmas and I’d just hate for you to have to wait that long!
But even with that deadline looming, if you’re anything like me, you probably still have some serious doubts about taking the plunge.
If you’re anything like me, when you heard about the small group guide you thought, “That’s awesome! I want soul-mate best friends and women to go through life with!” And then another thought occurred to you.
In order to make this happen, you’d actually have to invite girls to go through this small group guide with you, which might have brought a sick, nervous feeling into the pit of your stomach. And then the worst thought of all hit: What if they say no?
Embarrassing confession time: I felt the exact same way.
I love the content in this book. I’ve lived it, breathed it, and watched friendships and groups transform through the questions and stories I shared in this book. I believe in friendship and in doing the scary work of putting yourself out there in every way in order to get to that soul-filling, life-changing place.
But when it came time to invite women to test out the small group guide with me, I wanted to hide.
“Maybe I don’t have to test it,” I told Carl with a dismissive wave of my hand.
“I know this works, I don’t need to go through it with a new group of girls.”
I looked anywhere but his face as long as I could before I met his eyes. He was giving me the, “You’ve got to be kidding me” look I see so often.
“You know you can’t do that Steph. You can’t ask anyone to do anything you’re not willing to do yourself.”
He was right.
The truth is, I was scared to invite women to go through this small group guide with me. If I lived in Denver, or Atlanta, near my close-knit, already-established communities, I would have been fine. But that’s not where I found myself.
I was still the new kid in Nashville, so I had to test this out with women who I honestly didn’t know super well.
I was opening myself up wide to rejection, and I didn’t like it one bit.
But I knew what I had to do. So I took a deep breath, and began reaching out to women around Nashville. I called girls I’d met at church, and women I’d met for coffee once or twice. I called friends of friends, and invited a few people I’d actually never met before.
And to my total shock, the responses were so positive! Not everyone was able to say yes—some had previous commitments that prevented them from coming. (We did it over a weekend, instead of over 6 weeks). But not a single woman said, “Nope, I’m not interested in becoming better friends with you, or getting to know this group of women.”
Every single woman wanted what I was inviting them into.
Cue the deep sigh of relief!
So if you’ve heard about the small group guide and thought, “Yes, this sounds great in theory, but I’m not sure I could actually bring myself to do this!” You’re not alone. I wrote the thing and I felt the exact same way.
But you CAN bring yourself to do this. If I can do it, so can you.
And the thing is, it was so worth it.
The women who ended up coming were amazing. The group was perfect, exactly who needed to be there. The conversations that unfolded were so life-giving and all of us walked away from the weekend with the deep realization that we’re not alone in the world.
It’s amazing how the hardest, scariest things usually have the greatest payoff.
And so today, I want to tell you that if you’re afraid to do this, I’m right there with you.
But I want to tell you that it’s worth it. It’s worth it, and you can do this.
Deep, connected friendship needs a catalyst, and I truly believe that catalyst is you.
So take a deep breath and make the invitation. You (and they!) will be so grateful you did.
(And if you need a pep talk, send me an email! stephanie@StephanieMayWilson.com. I’m a pep talk professional. And I’m always here for you!)
Again – this is the VERY LAST DAY to get your copies, and then it’ll be gone until Christmas. (And just another little tidbit: If you are looking for a copy of the eBook, they aren’t available for purchase anymore, but you can get a copy for free when you snag yourself a workbook!)
I can’t wait to see the friendships your courage is the catalyst for.
All my love!