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How to Rock a Fast for 4 Days


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How to Rock a Fast for 4 Days (36 hours)

I always wanted to be Andi Anderson from How to Lose a Guy in 10 days. I have this glorified mental picture of what it must be like to spend your days writing about the things you care about.

Wait… ok… I already do that, and it’s fantastic.

Never mind.

So… that movie initially had nothing to do with why I decided to try this- but now that I’m neck deep in it, I kind of feel like Andi Anderson, hanging by my feet, trying to get taller in 10 days.


I can count on two fingers the number of times I’ve fasted in my life. Yep- I’ve only fasted twice (don’t call me a bad Christian- but you can pray for me if you want to.)

The first time, I was in Ghana and the whole missions team spent their Wednesday mornings fasting and praying for their ministry.

I was so excited to join in, because it seemed like such a serious, holy thing to do.

But only 45 minutes into the fast, I was ready to deck the next person that prayed an unnecessarily long prayer, and a few hours later when we were finally done, I scarfed down my lunch with barely a breath in between and no particularly holy result to speak of.

I didn’t think to fast again until Month 10 of my race when I was in Vietnam. I was sick that day and spent my 12 hour fast, hungry and in bed. I definitely had a fantastic few moments with Jesus, but no breakthrough to speak of- nothing that felt out of the ordinary. And by the time my teammate got home at 7:30 for dinner, I was ready to kill someone and in tears.

Is it fair to say that I’m not awesome at this?

So when I walked, 15 minutes late, into a brand new church on Sunday, I was surprised and kind of annoyed to find out that the sermon was on just that- ‘fasting’.

As the pastor explained more- my reasons for not doing it were getting weaker. He pointed out that it’s not something that’s suggested in Scripture- but rather something that’s assumed- “When you fast…” (Matt 6:16). It’s something that God’s people have been doing forever.

The pastor explained that it’s a bridge from one thing to another. It’s a time devoted to prayer because you simply can’t forget to pray when your stomach is rumbling.

It’s a spiritual tool- giving up something we love and need (food), for something we love and need more (God).

And I knew that it wasn’t an accident that I was there that day.

So- Andi Anderson style, I decided to chronicle this fast, going hungry, one for all, testing out this thing that Jesus so highly recommends. (fasting- not buying a love fern.) 

Here was my game plan: 4 day Daniel Fast to be broken Friday morning and broken hard as I go home for a friend’s wedding- ready to delight in the best fare that Denver has to offer.

Here’s what actually happened:

(Warning: I became a bit of a drama-queen in my hunger- consider yourself warned.)


Waking up: Angry and hungry. I feel like the color has been drained out of the world because all of a sudden I’m remembering a million things that I normally take for granted, and a million more that I take such delight in, and I can’t have any of them! I'm also pretty shocked to realize that I had inadvertently planned to count gifts- as I was fasting. Paying specific attention to the abundance and love that God pours out on me, while fasting? This is no coincidence.

Lunchtime: Well- turns out that I’m responsible for making lunch for the board of directors of Adventures in Missions, and get the honor and privilege of eating with them, and I think that turning down my own food might be bad form.

Fast broken.

Oh- and my roommate and I had an incredibly generous gift certificate for dinner, and so we went out on a date. Complete with chocolate cake.

Fast REALLY broken.

Tuesday: Back on the horse.

Waking up: Not cranky- excited for what the day will hold. Slept fantastically.

10 minutes later: Cranky

On the way to work: Crankier as I’m choking down plain oatmeal (allowed)- literally gagging.

Lunchtime: Rude to a coworker- hungry isn’t a great look for me.

At work: I’m in a haze. I can’t figure out why I’m so lethargic and why the world seems so grey. Is this all because I’m hungry? There’s no way…

After work: I’m ready to cry.


Waking up: Cranky

Morning prayer: Jesus- I don’t feel particularly holy today- nothing is coming out of this- my prayers aren’t better, my worship isn’t better, I’m just hungry and grumpy and feeling like all joy has been sucked out of my body. (See? Dramatic.)

Four minutes later: Breakthrough!

Quick Disclaimer: You may have noticed that specific stories of relationships are largely ignored on my blog. I have lots and lots of stories of mistakes, lessons learned the hard way and broken hearts- and they’re stories I love to share over coffee, allowing my past to hopefully encourage the present of others.

However- for the sake of these gentleman and for the sake of maintaining some semblance of privacy- I have decided to generally avoid this topic. Hopefully one day I can share all of these stories with you.  However- I will reference them vaguely, so you can do your own detective work. And sometimes- just sometimes- I’ll share specific stories.

… This is one of those times. 

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  1. Tara says:

    Woooo girl! First off, no judgement coming from me because I’ve fasted a few times in my life and so far I’ve seen myself in each day you’ve written about. Second, I’m soo excited for tomorrow’s post! Blessings to you! 🙂

  2. Hope Naomi says:

    …I have a love/hate relationship with fasting. I hate doing it, but I have found incredible breakthrough from it (never *during* or even right after the fast, usually it’s some time later that I am able to see what actually shifted in the spiritual realms.)

    Way to go!

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